Love Letters to my Children

This may be the one of best things you could do for your children-one that they might cherish their whole life. Since we are all different, with different character traits, my suggestion is that you create individual letters to each of your children. Don’t generalize!!! Be very specific when you can. This document will be something your child/children will cherish forever. Knowing that you took time to create it, just for them, is somethingthat well, people do not do anymore which is

why it’s so special. I will give you some starting points, but the rest is up to you. Remember this is from you to your child. Highly personalized to them.

Work with me for a moment! You’re driving along minding your own business and WHAM! You die instantly! What would you have wanted to tell them? What things do youregret not telling them that you now know you should have told them? i.e. how much you love them. How important they are to you. Incidents in their life, your life. What are some of the regrets you have? The decisions you made that you regret making. What are the things you wish you said! (i.e. The praise you gave that wasn’t understood or taken the way you wanted it to be taken. Now is your time to explain.)

What things are you glad you told them? What would you like to tell them that you never did? (i.e. How proud you were of them when they …..How excited you were for them when they….. ) Given their ages now, what would you like to tell them about things to come? (i.e. first date, going off to college, engagement, marriage, first baby, love, divorce) The sky is the limit! You decide what you want to say and when you want to give them this letter. It’s all up to YOU.

Why should I do this and what are the benefits for me as a Grandparent?

- The opportunity to leave the legacy I want to leave to my family, rather than just hope

-The opportunity to make a difference on purpose rather than just by chance.

-I get to share my vaules and stories in my own words instead of leaving it to interpretation.

-It allows me the opportunity to tell the story of my life. What I was up to; what was important to me and the difference I believe I made in life.

-I get to leave a legacy for not only my immediate family but for generations to come.

-I have a better chance of making sure my values will be baseline for future generations.

-It helps me place the emphasis on the stories and values rather than the money I am leaving them.

-It opens the door to teach my grandchildren and my children about the importance of faith and love for them.

-It helps me address the issues we have that would have gone unspoken,

Testimonial

A love letter to Grandparents

I consider myself a pretty decent Grandma...After 10 years of "experience", I've mastered the "when and when not to's"...the "what and what not to's" and everyone seems to be please with the way things are working...

Before embarking on this journey, I realize that my efforts and actions can be best described as random acts of love and caring toward these precious little people...my grandchildren. Looking back, I know that my values and beliefs could be found in the things that I did with them and for them, but there was never a cohesiveness, or plan.

The process encourged me to reflect on some of the individiual things that would be important to me to tell them..I did that.. and am pleased with the things I have left. The result included some generalizations, some specifics, some with examples from my life, some with references to scripture.

An unexpected benfit to me from the process presented itself on a whole different plane. As I began considering componets of the letter I would be leaving, I realized that instead of leaving it to chance, I could be much more effective as a positive force in the lives of those children by making sure that all interactions with them contain the thread of faith. With this deliberate focus, I am energized with the prosepect of making a difference in their lives NOW...not just later...when they must rely on my letter for my love and wisdom.

While I have not been the recipient of one of these "Love Letters" and therefore cannot attest how it has impacted my life. I can say, however, that I believe the letter I have left will benefit those who hear if. And additionally, I know that the result of the process WILL benefit those with whom I interact from this point forward.

Linda

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